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Cycles of Life - everything in its own time

Jai Ram Kaur Hergo - Saturday, April 20, 2019
   


Cycles of Life ~ everything in its own time

Kundalini Yoga teachings tell us that for the first 3 years of life the baby shares 8 of his or her 10 spiritual bodies with the mother. At 3 the child has their own 10 bodies and is fully separate. It takes a full 3 years for this to happen! And at this time a significant shift in the relationship can be experienced.


Life is understood backwards but is lived forwards.
First time mothers can be forgiven for thinking “Will I be in this cave forever?! Have “i” as I know myself disappeared for good? Is this it now?” 


How could you know that a new phase is coming.. and a new one .. and a new one?
So let me reassure you women in those first 6 intense and intensely self-sacrificing months: it will change, and quite soon.
At around 6 months a reorientation happens.
The first phase of firmly establishing a security and a deep bond and a sense of foundation, messy as it can get, imperfect as it may seem, is as important as it is inevitable.
You’re doing such important work there. 


And meanwhile you yourself are experiencing unprecedented growth in your humanity.
You may feel like you live in a cave or a pressure cooker. That’s necessary. It will pass.
At 6 months your eyes open wider along with your baby’s. The world opens up again with new possibilities. The father role becomes more activated as the baby has the inner security to be ready to open up into the world more.
And at 3 years this intense nurturing, nourishing, foundation-laying time will be finished. And a new cycle will begin.


So take a deep breath.
Feel accomplished. Honour yourself deeply and do and think what sustains and enriches you on the journey.
You are nursing a soul into the world as much as a body and a mind.


“In your caliber there is a consciousness. In that consciousness there is a caring being. In that caring being there is God. That's all I am saying. Look to your vastness. Look to your bigness. Look to your totality. Don't look to the little things.”
Yogi Bhajan




Motherhood - it hurts

Jai Ram Kaur Hergo - Monday, December 18, 2017


Motherhood is a place in which apparently opposite things live. You love your child so much you would die for them. And, as pointed out by one of the wise women at Mama Baba Yoga today, at other times you are so at the end of your wits you would like to kill them. It’s shocking, right?
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Motherhood is the definition of bittersweet. The sweetness you see in your child is always passing. To be replaced by the next stage of life. You can’t hold on to anything.
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It hurts. It breaks your heart open. .
It’s not true that you should love every moment. Beware of shoulds. It’s in the tension between opposites - the bitter and the sweet - the wonderful and the so so testing, trying moments - that the greatest challenge and therefore growth occurs. So don’t even try to get rid of the tension by pretending to yourself or others. Wisdom comes through recognising that all the rich contradictory nature of the experience can only be held in one place: in the heart.
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Tears crack you open. You are rendered defenseless. Again and again. By love. And all it makes you do.
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This crazy, challenging, awesome, wonderful, heartbreaking, heart-opening life of motherhood.

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