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Motherhood - it hurts

Jai Ram Kaur Hergo - Monday, December 18, 2017


Motherhood is a place in which apparently opposite things live. You love your child so much you would die for them. And, as pointed out by one of the wise women at Mama Baba Yoga today, at other times you are so at the end of your wits you would like to kill them. It’s shocking, right?
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Motherhood is the definition of bittersweet. The sweetness you see in your child is always passing. To be replaced by the next stage of life. You can’t hold on to anything.
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It hurts. It breaks your heart open. .
It’s not true that you should love every moment. Beware of shoulds. It’s in the tension between opposites - the bitter and the sweet - the wonderful and the so so testing, trying moments - that the greatest challenge and therefore growth occurs. So don’t even try to get rid of the tension by pretending to yourself or others. Wisdom comes through recognising that all the rich contradictory nature of the experience can only be held in one place: in the heart.
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Tears crack you open. You are rendered defenseless. Again and again. By love. And all it makes you do.
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This crazy, challenging, awesome, wonderful, heartbreaking, heart-opening life of motherhood.

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