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Birth: Reaping the rewards

Jai Ram Kaur Hergo - Sunday, May 24, 2020

In online postnatal yoga last Thursday we opened the space at the beginning of class for anyone who wanted to share about their birth experience.
What a profound event it is! No matter how it happens. To consciously celebrate it allows us to integrate and keep drawing from its lessons. Sometimes just to hear yourself say something and have it heard by others is in itself an important step in the growth process. Making things conscious and clear that were previously a little vague. 
Sometimes there is something difficult from the birth to digest and integrate. Feeling feelings, expressing reactions and responses is necessary for moving on, for learning, for forgiving.. if there is ever really anything to forgive. Writing your birth story can also be hugely valuable - for the precious record you will have years later, when you've forgotten details, and for the therapeutic value of it. I share stories on my website because they are all awesome. Here is a page that has some suggestions on how you might go about writing your story, if you feel you want some inspiration. 

Last Thursday was no different from any other sharing on birth that I have been a part of, by which I mean it was touching, humbling, a privilege. And why not revisit that magic and open the door to let the fragrance and wonder of this incredible time in to the present moment?

What struck me from the sharing of the women this time was a common theme. There was the sense that the birth left a lasting imprint of empowerment on the women who spoke. Birth was clearly felt and experienced to be an experience that permanently changed the women's perception of themselves in such a way that set them up for being mothers. Is that not nature's plan? Does it not equip us, every step of the way? 

Very clear also was that birth is empowering and strengthening to the sense of self trust regardless of how it went. One woman took it a step further and commented that, although this, her third birth, was less smooth and more challenging than the previous two, with more interventions and troubles, she felt proud and strong. She processed what was upsetting to her after the birth by letting herself feel the pain and letting herself cry.. and then it passed. She realised, actually all is ok. No need to even try to avoid the hard experiences. It's ok. That too, I can contain. That too makes me grow. How ultimately strengthening. How much wisdom is in that? 

Always bowing down to this extraordinary life. 
Are you in the first 40 days following birth? You are invited to all Small Blessings Yoga classes online, for free, as a gift of support to you in this time. 

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