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Eyes wide open into birth

Jai Ram Kaur Hergo - Sunday, February 05, 2012

It is said in Kundalini Yoga humanology that in the first 3 days of a baby´s life, he or she learns love. The hormone that governs the uterine surges or rushes (or contractions), oxytocin, is the same hormone present in orgasm. It is a melting, heart-opening love hormone. Just following birth, this hormone is at its highest levels, which is nature´s way of bringing about the falling in love with your baby feeling, creating a deep bond between you which will ensure the baby´s continued health and well-being. The baby is experiencing the effects of oxytocin too and, interestingly, also the father, if he is present.

 

These moments can´t truly be described until you´ve experienced them for yourself. The best thing is to hold your baby against your skin, ideally skin to skin, so that your baby has the smallest possible move from the warm cozy environment of your womb on its journey out into the world. He or she can then hear your heartbeat and smell you, maybe even look into your eyes. Finally, your baby in your arms! And your baby falls in love with you too!

 

If you take all this into consideration when thinking about your choices for the birth, it will have an influence. There are times when anaesthetic of some kind during birth, mostly epidural, can be just the thing to help the mother through or in the case of emergency caesarian of course, totally necessary. However, it is good to be aware that an epidural numbs not only the body but also the mind and emotions and may effect your sense of being present and feeling, of falling in love. This is not to say that it is not then possible, but epidural will certainly have an effect on this level.

 

Also, it is often the case that an epidural slows the action of the uterine surges and so pitocin, or synthetic oxytocin, is given to increase the strength of the surges again. Surges under the influence of pitocin are more painful than natural ones, and some women go into overreaction so that it can happen that there is no or hardly any gap between surges any more. This in turn necessitates the use of increased anaesthetic, then possibly higher pitocin and so on. Under these circumstances, oxytocin is blocked and the natural endorphins do not flow. In this way, many hospital births turn into caesarians, not through any inadequacy of the women herself, but sometimes due to the procedures of hospitals and the misinformation or lack of information available to women.

 

If after the birth the baby is removed from the mother, the whole experience can be very disempowering and result in the loss of the special oxytocin-fuelled falling in love experience. A medical assessment of "post-natal depression" does not take into account the deep consummation that the experience of birth is for a woman and the grief that she might naturally feel after a disempowering or fundamentally incomplete experience. Interestingly, women do not even have to consciously know exactly what they have missed to know that they have indeed missed something very deep and fundamental and to feel grief, sadness and depression afterwards.

 

Birth happens in so many ways and each birth is truly unique so this is not to say that there is one ideal way, but it is nonetheless very good to inform yourself before the event and go into the experience with your eyes open. In the end, perfect is an illusion and things are in fact perfect just as they are, however they are, as this baby chose YOU, but women who feel they made conscious choices with eyes open and also had the means to assert their choices in the process feel extremely empowered by birth, their sense of identity and their own potential expanded in a very positive sense.

 

 

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Eyes Wide Open into Birth

Jai Ram Kaur Hergo - Wednesday, February 20, 2013

It is said in Kundalini Yoga humanology that in the first 3 days of a baby´s life, he or she learns love. The hormone that governs the uterine surges or rushes (or contractions), oxytocin, is the same hormone present in orgasm. It is a melting, heart-opening love hormone. Just following birth, this hormone is at its highest levels, which is nature´s way of bringing about the falling in love with your baby feeling, creating a deep bond between you which will ensure the baby´s continued health and well-being. The baby is experiencing the effects of oxytocin too and, interestingly, also the father, if he is present.

 

These moments can´t truly be described until you´ve experienced them for yourself. The best thing is to hold your baby against your skin, ideally skin to skin, so that your baby has the smallest possible move from the warm cozy environment of your womb on its journey out into the world. He or she can then hear your heartbeat and smell you, maybe even look into your eyes. Finally, your baby in your arms! And your baby falls in love with you too!

 

If you take all this into consideration when thinking about your choices for the birth, it will have an influence. There are times when anaesthetic of some kind during birth, mostly epidural, can be just the thing to help the mother through or in the case of emergency caesarian of course, totally necessary. However, it is good to be aware that an epidural numbs not only the body but also the mind and emotions and may effect your sense of being present and feeling, of falling in love. This is not to say that it is not then possible, but epidural will certainly have an effect on this level.

 

Also, it is often the case that an epidural slows the action of the uterine surges and so pitocin, or synthetic oxytocin, is given to increase the strength of the surges again. Surges under the influence of pitocin are more painful than natural ones, and some women go into overreaction so that it can happen that there is no or hardly any gap between surges any more. This in turn necessitates the use of increased anaesthetic, then possibly higher pitocin and so on. Under these circumstances, oxytocin is blocked and the natural endorphins do not flow. In this way, many hospital births turn into caesarians, not through any inadequacy of the women herself, but sometimes due to the procedures of hospitals and the misinformation or lack of information available to women.

 

If after the birth the baby is removed from the mother, the whole experience can be very disempowering and result in the loss of the special oxytocin-fuelled falling in love experience. A medical assessment of "post-natal depression" does not take into account the deep consummation that the experience of birth is for a woman and the grief that she might naturally feel after a disempowering or fundamentally incomplete experience. Interestingly, women do not even have to consciously know exactly what they have missed to know that they have indeed missed something very deep and fundamental and to feel grief, sadness and depression afterwards.

 

Birth happens in so many ways and each birth is truly unique so this is not to say that there is one ideal way, but it is nonetheless very good to inform yourself before the event and go into the experience with your eyes open. In the end, perfect is an illusion and things are in fact perfect just as they are, however they are, as this baby chose YOU, but women who feel they made conscious choices with eyes open and also had the means to assert their choices in the process feel extremely empowered by birth, their sense of identity and their own potential expanded in a very positive sense.

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